September 12, 2019
5 Steps To Build Close And Meaningful Relationships
Whether you find it easy to make friends or nearly impossible, let me ask you this – are your friendships meaningful?
GUEST EDITOR: Trish Rock
There’s a difference between building a social network of acquaintances and developing close and fulfilling relationships. Not everyone is born with an innate ability to build amazing friendships. Luckily, you can improve your skills on the friendship front and improve your existing relationships while you’re at it.
Building a meaningful relationship with that one special person is also about the closeness you bring and allow in. Opening your heart to a deeper trust along with giving your partner the space to do the same will bring a closeness you may not have ever experienced or that you can rekindle.
1. Notice Everything
You probably feel great when someone asks if you’re okay when you feel down. You may not have told them that you weren’t feeling yourself, but you appreciate the fact that they noticed – they pay attention to you and that’s something we all appreciate.
Don’t just focus on the words that someone is saying; take notice of the whole person. So, when you’re deep in conversation with someone hear the tone they’re using, look at their body language, and consider their facial expressions. You can detect when there’s a disconnect between words and the rest and when you learn how to do this you can have a more meaningful conversation that builds a strong connection and opens the doors to a trusting relationship.
2. Remember What’s Important
It isn’t just about what you think is important, it’s about what is important to others, too. One of the biggest steps in building a relationship is remembering someone’s name (if you’re meeting new people) and remembering the key information that they share with you as you’re getting to know them. When they tell you about your job or their family, remember the key pieces of information that they are sharing with you.
This is especially important if you see excitement on their face as they’re discussing a certain subject. Store that factoid away for another day and ask them about it later, they will be delighted to see you remembered the information.
In a deep relationship this is truly a bonding that will grow and deepen if cared for.
3. Manage Mood Swings
It can be difficult for people who experience mood swings to build meaningful relationships. Sometimes engaging with others is more important than getting lost in your emotions.
If you’re going through something deep and it’s affecting your ability to listen and fully engage share that with the person you’re speaking to so they know you’re not fully present. That doesn’t mean you need to go into the details if your relationship isn’t at that stage yet.
If you are in a relationship or starting one, being yourself is important however getting lost in the drama of your emotions can be off putting for the other person. Do some inner work on this to have a balanced emotional energy and the mood swings will pass by easily.
4. Know When To Share
You don’t need to pour your heart out and tell your entire life story within five minutes of sharing your name with someone. Not only will they not remember anything you tell them but they probably aren’t interested in hearing it yet. Building meaningful relationships requires pacing – it truly is a marathon, not a sprint.
You should know how much to share and at what point in the friendship. When someone shares a story with you, you can draw one from your own life to share. Just be careful that you’re not trying to outdo them, or overshadow their experience with yours. It’s all about being sensitive to their emotions and showing empathy. Don’t race into your story as soon as they’re done speaking, first respond to what they have told you.
5. Listen & Question
You want people to listen to what you have to say, so make sure you listen to others. Don’t get caught up thinking about what you’re going to say next – actively listen to what someone is telling you and respond before you go any further. If you find yourself falling into this bad habit – breathe – and start listening. People want to bond with others who actively listen.
One effective way to show that you are listening is by asking appropriate questions. This can take the form of simply validating that you heard them correctly or by asking for more information about what they have told you. This is especially important in a long term relationship and a good practice to start in a new relationship.
Romance and Love can flow in a deeper way in your relationship if you truly respect, honour and are curious about your partner.
In friendships this is just as true.
Be the friend or partner that you would like others to be for you and you will find that you will receive it in return.
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Trish Rock | Your Abundance Identity | Producer & Host of the TrishRockTV Show
Trish has transformed her life, and those of her clients, through the techniques she teaches in The Abundance Identity program where she assists in connection with the multi dimensional version of you and bringing that to life here, now. Trish is a passionate Psychic, Channel, Holistic Counsellor, Speaker & Best Selling Author, helping people with their Abundance and freedom from Self Sabotage. She transforms lives. She has a natural ability to channel solutions and assists her clients in feeling Freedom from the struggle in finances, relationship, career and health. Trish is a Holistic Health and WellBeing practitioner, Meditation channel and holds a Post Grad in Mind Body Medicine.