Here is the roadblock that is blocking you from getting what you want in life

September 12, 2019

Here is the roadblock that is blocking you from getting what you want in life


The label ‘stress’ is used to describe a challenged way of living, and a roadblock to how we truly want to be experiencing life. But the risk in ‘labelling’ anything is that it becomes something outside of our personal control. Something happening TO us.


Stress is not one single thing.
It’s the cumulative load of many unearthed challenges, and when we begin to unpack the beast, we realise there are simple practices we can slowly integrate to raise our stress resilience and shift our negative relationship to stress.



Take the word ‘stress’ out of your vocabulary
Dig deeper to understand what is truly driving your stress response.
“When we know it, we can change it”

Instead of ‘I’m feeling stressed’ (outside of behavioural control), is it possible that you are;

  • Feeling guilty over not spending enough time with your loved ones?
  • Feeling cognitively overloaded with your ‘to-do’s’?
  • Feeling fear, self-doubt and anxiety around something outside of your comfort zone?
  • Feeling reactive to other people’s needs and not being intentional in your behaviours?
  • Trying to control too many things in your day?
  • Living incongruently with your personal values in an attempt to please others, damaging personal integrity?
  • In self-critical mode?
  • Placing your attention on the 10% that isn’t working well, and ignoring the 90% that is?
  • Placing unrealistic expectations on others and/or yourself?
  • Comparing your situation to others?
  • Feeling like you don’t have close relationships and a sense of belonging?


Or is it a PHYSICAL trigger?

  • Too many convenience products disrupting;
  • Your organ system function and peak performance?
  • Your beneficial bacteria and consequent neurotransmitter communication essential for your balancing emotional and mental state
  • Lack of hydration for beautiful synergistic body function?
  • Clutter overload on your desk, in your home and car causing overwhelm and guilt? (yes, it’s research proven!)
  • Constant distraction and relentless contact; Social media alerts? Email accounts? Phone calls?
  • Your movement modalities incorrect for your current needs?
  • Your technology and dietary habits interrupting your light and dark circadian rhythms and sleep quality?
  • Your eating processes (inhaling lunch, stressed when eating, drinking with meals) causing poor nutrient absorption and pressuring your gut lining?
  • A high chemical load through personal care and cleaning products, your environment and food choices, which are impacting hormonal function and the immune system?
  • Caffeine, sugar and alcohol reliance?


Yes, stress is a beast that requires closer attention to get to its core. To establish all the elements in play that are resulting in the experience of ‘stress’.

Discover what your unique STRESS experience is comprised of.



Pick the least emotionally attached driver first
Stress resilience is built cog by cog, and sustainable behaviour change is built through small and consistent wins.

If you LOVE your caffeine, don’t eliminate it first. It won’t stick.
Choose an easy one, for example, drink more beautiful alkaline water.



Interrupt auto-pilot
We know that the stress response precipitates habitual behaviour, and this is why you end up unconsciously repeating the same things you have always done, despite a conscious desire to alter status quo.

An easy way to ‘pattern interrupt’ auto-pilot is through post-it notes. EVERYWHERE!
In the kitchen. Car. Computer. Bathroom. Toilet (perhaps not for the drinking water goal!)



Fire up the beautiful brain
Using all parts of the brain is required for sustainable behaviour change.
Setting the intention and using the Neocortex is simply one step in the process.

We need to bring the Limbic (emotional) brain into the practice of repetition, which means you must be aware and acknowledge the positive aspect of the new behaviour in the moment you are ‘doing’ it. You must ‘feel’ it as you ‘do’ it.

You are more likely to repeat a behaviour for the long term, if you acknowledge the benefits to how you feel, rather than simply going through the motions.


Step 5.

Accountability aids action
Engage a buddy, a coach or a family member to hold you accountable. Be sure you’re willing to receive their accountability reminders!


Erin Barnes
Next Generation Wellness









Erin is the founder of Next Generation Wellness, raising stress resilience in homes, workplaces and in the community, and is the creator of the 4C’s Coaching Methodology which allows sustainable behaviour change, stress resilience and high performance among individuals and organisations.

Erin holds a Bachelor of Applied Science (BAsc) – Human Movement Sciences- encompassing nutrition, psychology and exercise science, is an advanced Neuro- Linguistic Programming (NLP) Practitioner, Personal Trainer, Certified Wellness & Lifestyle Coach, Master Mindfulness Practitioner, Cognitive Behavioural Therapist, and Sports Trainer.

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