Ladies At Lunch – love, lust AND life
Being the love issue, I caught up with the ladies over a delicious meal at Sandbar Cafe and Kiosk in Caloundra to discover what true love means to them.
Whether it’s the powerful and unshakable bond between mother and child, the enduring love of an elderly married couple or the new and exciting ‘buzz’ we feel when we find our perfect match, love comes packaged in many different forms throughout our lifetime.
But when do we know we are in love? How do we know when we’ve found ‘the one’ and what is it about maternal love that is so special and indescribable? To find out more, I posed these questions to the lunching ladies and discovered that, while everyone has their own journey to make, love is an innate part of our DNA, it’s all around us and it has no barriers.
Joining me for lunch was Sandra Gilbert, group care manager with Noosacare; Sharon Chapman, owner of emotional healing business Trauma into Triumph; Trudy Fitzgerald, marketing manager with Fertility Solutions; Donna Jankiwskyj, co-owner of Relish Hair, Mountain Creek; Latoya Rodriguez, owner of Deep Love Picnics; Candice-Louise Craig, co-owner of MAMA (Midwives and Mothers Australia) and general manager of Profile, Kara de Schot.
profile: Ladies, do you believe in love at first sight?
candice-louise: I do. When I met my husband I just knew he was the one the moment I saw him. Our first date was really easy, we didn’t have to try or pretend to be someone other than ourselves. I think if you’re both looking for the same things you put that energy out there and it attracts the right person.
donna: I’m not sure about love at first sight but I do believe in true and everlasting love. My parents have been married for almost 40 years. I look at love through their eyes. I’m currently a single mother-of-two and I am very happy in my life right now. I am surrounded by love from my girls, my family and my friends.
trudy: Yes I do, particularly when we see our babies for the first time, it’s instant love.
kara: I do believe in love at first sight but I also believe in the opposite, which is what happened to me. I went to highschool with my husband and we didn’t like each other at all to begin with. It wasn’t until years later that we bumped into each other again and how things had changed! We had both grown up and there was an instant connection. We started dating and I just knew we would be together.
sandra: I definitely believe in love at first sight. I was also a single mum for 10 years and it was a precious time that I wouldn’t change because the bond I formed with my boys was priceless. Then I met my current partner through the world of triathlons. He was living in Western Australia and I was here so it couldn’t be more difficult. So for 12 months we travelled the world and after a year of doing the distance thing it got too hard and he said, ‘What if I moved to Noosa?’. So he did and we were married in Noosa 12 months ago and it’s been fabulous.
There are so many DIFFERENT forms of love – the way you love your children is different to the way you love your partner.”
sharon: I guess I believe in lust at first sight and love at first sight. I think if you find that in one person, then it’s a winner. I was single for 10 years before I met my husband Giuseppe. I wasn’t going to settle for second best. I had been to a personal development course and I wrote four A4 pages of what I wanted in an ideal partner – no pressure! So I dated a few guys and my heart and soul just said, ‘Wait’. Then I went on a law of attraction cruise and on the first night, I stood on the deck and said, ‘Okay universe, if this law of attraction works, bring me the man’, and I met him three days later!
latoya: I do now. I spent 10 years in a marriage that wasn’t quite right. I was never 100 per cent happy but I don’t have any regrets; we have three beautiful children together. After a rough separation when my third baby was just nine months old, I was dropping my son to school one day and I saw this man with an amazing smile – there was just something about him. Two years later I met him again and I recognised that smile right away. We went out on a date and fell instantly in love and have been inseparable ever since. In fact, he proposed just recently and of course, I said yes! He has taken on my three children and he has two of his own, so it’s a crazy busy house but I wouldn’t have it any other way. It just works.
profile: What is your favourite love story?
trudy: My heart softens for the love stories of the older generation and how it used to be in their day, when they met young and had a courtship. Today love happens differently to how it did years ago. Young love is special and their endurance was amazing. Having said that, their roles were very different; in that era women were at home. Now they have to look after the house and work and raise a family, it’s harder to have a relationship today.
kara: That’s what sprung to my mind too. I think of couples who have been together for 50 or 60 years. They have been through so much. It starts with just them and then ends with just them.
sandra: I see love all the time at work. It’s so hard when one of them comes into aged care or when they don’t remember their partner after 50 years. It breaks my heart.
candice-louise: I agree. We live in a society where it’s an easy out for a lot of things, whether it’s marriage or otherwise. In our grandparents’ era they didn’t have a choice, they made it work.
profile: In your opinion what is the strongest type of love?
candice-louise: I have to say it’s changed over the years for me, as I have matured and had a baby. Right now the thing I love most is watching my husband with our child. There is nothing more rewarding than seeing them together. When they are both laughing and feeding off each other, that infectious giggle fills my heart with joy and love. There are so many different forms of love – the way you love your children is different to the way you love your partner. Neither is stronger, just different.
donna: Do you remember with your firstborn, you would be so tired but you would sit there watching them sleep? I don’t think any of us would watch our partners sleep! You are that tired but they are so beautiful you just can’t stop looking at them. There is nothing quite like maternal love.
latoya: I’ve always put the kids above everything. I can’t imagine anything stronger or better.
sharon: I was very old fashioned in regards to love and I was waiting for a gentleman. I nannied for three different families with children and animals, so I have looked after others over the years, and have had so much love from so many others. It really excites me when I hear everyone talk of the maternal love and the things I have to look forward to. The love you talk about sounds incredible.
Sandbar Cafe and Kiosk Caloundra
Located at the base of the iconic Rumba Resort, Sandbar Cafe and Kiosk has a stellar reputation for fresh, vibrant cuisine in a relaxed environment.
Boasting beautiful Bulcock Beach views, Sandbar offers both a stylish dine-in option as well as a more casual kiosk, where you can grab some of the best fish and chips on the Coast to enjoy on the beach.
Owners John Ktenidis and Sharon Collins are passionate about using only the freshest local ingredients, and you can taste it on the plate.
The lunchtime menu offers a wide selection of delicious options to suit all tastes and appetites, so we were spoilt for choice – especially as we could also order from the delicious breakfast menu, which is available until 2.30pm.
We kicked things off with the chef’s tasting plate; beautifully presented, fresh and full of flavour, each delicious morsel was melt-in-your-mouth delicious.
Some of the lighter options on the menu include chickpea and feta falafel with beetroot yoghurt and pomegranate salad, bacon and pea croquettes with spiced aioli and baby cress salad, or tempura zucchini flower with ricotta and lemon farce, papaya and pear salad, and citrus yoghurt.
For something a little more substantial, the restaurant offers an array of fresh salads, burgers, wraps, pastas and of course, their speciality – delicious fresh seafood.
The Mediterranean salad was a popular choice among the ladies and tasted as good as it looked. A combination of roasted local vegetables, with marinated feta, pearl couscous and a balsamic vinaigrette, it was bursting with flavour and colour.
The salmon and kaffir lime potato cakes also got the big thumbs up and I can vouch for their famous corn fritters, which are some of the best I have sampled.
Open for breakfast, lunch and dinner and fully licensed, Sandbar Cafe and Kiosk is the perfect place for a catch up with friends or to stop by for a seafood feast to take away.
Sandbar Cafe and Kiosk
26 The Esplanade, Bulcock Beach, Caloundra
Phone: 5491 0800