April 29, 2016


When it comes to life-changing moments, becoming a mother is simply monumental. It is one of life’s true gifts. From the moment you meet your child for the first time, something primal, something deep within, kicks in. Call it a mother’s instinct but only then do you truly understand what it feels like to love someone with every inch of your being.

As a mother-of-three, I can still recall every little detail of that magical moment when my firstborn was handed to me, like it was yesterday.

Motherhood is without a doubt one of the most challenging roles you will ever have. Being entirely responsible for a tiny new person, guiding them through the trials and tribulations of life, witnessing their disappointments and their achievements and walking the tightrope of emotions during the prickly teenage years is a rollercoaster ride. But the pride you feel as you watch them develop into young independent people who are making their mark in the world makes it all worthwhile.

Being a mother doesn’t end when your children grow into adults either. There are still times when you need the kind of advice that only a mother can give and I feel blessed every day to have a mother who is always there to lend an ear and offer support.

VIP Ladies at Lunch

Sometimes when you pick up your child you can feel the map of your own bones beneath your hands, or smell the scent of your skin in the nape of his neck. This is the most extraordinary thing about motherhood – finding a piece of yourself separate and apart that all the same you could not live without.”
– Jodi Picoult

Mother’s Day is such a special day to stop and take time to thank those who have raised and nurtured us. To celebrate, Profile held a special VIP Ladies Lunch at the beautiful Flaxton Gardens with a bunch of local ladies to discuss all things motherhood, while being treated to a delightful high tea – and bubbles of course.

We asked the lunching ladies to share their thoughts on what motherhood meant to them as well as their advice for mums-to-be.

It was a memorable day, filled with lots of laughter, some tears and of course lots of new friendships were formed due to a common bond we all share and a topic that is close to all of our hearts.

VIP Ladies at Lunch

Profile: What does Mother’s Day mean to you and how do you celebrate it?

Sonja Schulz: For me, it’s about celebrating women and mothers all over the world for our resilience and nurturing and achievements.
Gillian Strong: Enjoying the company of my children. We just have breakfast together and hang out.
Donna Penny: Being spoilt and not having to lift a finger.
Lisa Box: Mother’s Day is a day of gratitude, what I have, what I’ve lost and what I love.
Carol Hawkins: It’s always very low key. I just love to see my son, rather than receive presents.
Narissa Harrison: To me it’s a celebration of women, feminine energy and being strong, supportive and nurturing.
Mischa Pearson: I value Mother’s Day more as I grow older. It’s about showing appreciation for the biggest job you will have in your life.
Tam Wrigley: Everyday is Mother’s Day. Waking up every morning with healthy children is celebration enough.
Sue Frost: A time to celebrate with my daughters and see them celebrating being a mum.
Kim Maher: All of my children come to stay for the weekend. Usually my eldest son cooks a delicious lunch.
Karin Littleton: We celebrate however mum wants to. Sometimes we go to Eumundi Markets and buy cheeses and bread and nibble for the rest of the day.
Angela Williams: A day to be honoured and to honor the role and value of motherhood.
Helene Syke: It’s all about family for me. We all get together for lunch, including grandparents and great grandparents.
Sarah McIntosh: Every year the family gets together and has roast chicken and chips.
Renee Smith: Doing nothing, staying home with my hubby and children, eating burnt toast and drinking cold coffee.
Suzanne Harris-Johns: As I live away from my sons, I look forward to the phone calls.
Fran Fuller: It’s a day of reflection and thinking about my own mum who passed away four years ago. I spend it with my three gorgeous teenage sons and hubby and usually get breakfast in bed.
Tracy Woolley: Every day is Mother’s Day. He loves me and I love mine!
Kerry Phairs: Remembrance of my mother and her last Mother’s Day with us. It is a beautiful memory.
Chris Childs: It is the opportunity to celebrate family. We spend time with four generations on the day. I love it.
Nef Pearce: It’s a special day with my four girls. Enjoying breakfast in bed and watching their excited faces as they present the gifts they chose.
Jessica Vartuli: We spend the day with my amazing mum. It’s a chance to say thank you for being her.

VIP Ladies at Lunch

Profile: What is the best piece of advice your mother has given you?

Sonja Schulz: Enjoy your children’s childhood as you can’t get back those years, they are precious.
Gillian Strong: When the rest of the world is wrong and you are right, it’s time to look in the mirror.
Susan Green: The hard times will pass.
Caroline Haines: Love your children unconditionally.
Carol Hawkins: She gave me the recipe to be a good survivor and a good grounding for being independent and my own person.
Narissa Harrison: You just have to get on with it.
Mischa Pearson: You can always get divorced!
Tam Wrigley: Be patient, be kind and be tolerant.
Karen Young: Treat other people how you want to be treated.
Kim Maher: Think positive, be positive and stay positive.
Doreen MCKelvey: Always carry a safety pin and pen.
Angela Williams: Never make a big decision on a high or a low.
Deborah De Jong: Don’t ever be afraid to be heard.
Helene Syke: Never say can’t.
Josy Young: Never let the sun set with you in an angry state. Kiss and make up.
Sarah McIntosh: Keep time for yourself.
Renee Smith: Do what makes you happy.
Maree Brodie: Be true to you.
Tracy Woolley: Keep your legs together!
Kerry Phairs: Be true to yourself and respect yourself and others.
Lisa Bowden: Always have your best undies on when you leave the house.
Chris Childs: Treat everyone as you would like to be treated and if you can’t say something nice, say nothing.
Shannon Harth: Always be present.
Jessica Vartuli: Mum is always right in the end (I have a scar on my ankle to forever remind me).

VIP Ladies at Lunch

She gave me the recipe to be a good survivor and a good grounding for being independent and my own person.”
– Carol Hawkins

Profile: What is the one thing you didn’t expect about becoming a mother?

Sonja Schulz: When I became a mother I also became a cook, a nurse, a doctor, an entertainer, a counsellor and teacher!
Gillian Strong: The amount of love that I felt for my children.
Susan Green: How hard it would be!
Donna Penny: The unconditional love you feel.
Caroline Haines: The love you have for them and then their children.
Carol Hawkins: To bring up my son on my own. It was a wonderful experience and we are very close.
Narissa Harrison: When they were little. The extreme, the tough challenging times and the love and gratitude I had for them.
Mischa Pearson: How challenging it would be and how much my children would teach me.
Tam Wrigley: The unconditional love.
Sue Frost: How much I would love them.
Kim Maher: How proud of them you are.
Doreen McKelvey: The challenge.
Kym Bell: The constant need for attention. You just have to be there always. I do love it though.
Josy Bell: Very little free time for yourself.
Renee Smith: It may sound corny but how much you really love your children.
Suzanne Harris-Johns: How it continues into their 40s!
Fran Fuller: The unique bond between a mother and son.
Tracy Woolley: Just how much I could love another human being.
Kerry Phairs: I didn’t expect I wouldn’t be a mum however being an aunty and adopted grandmother is wonderful.
Karen Young: Unconditional love and joy.
Chris Childs: To experience total love. You would literally die for your children.
Nef Pearce: The overwhelming urge to protect them and strength within you you never knew existed.
Lisa Huelin: How much I would love it.
Shannon Harth: I didn’t realise how much the size of your heart grows! I love it.

VIP Ladies at Lunch

Profile: What advice would you give to a first time mother-to-be?

Sonja Schulz: Take all the advice with a grain of salt. You will find your own way, which is the best way for you.
Gillian Strong: Listen to other people’s advice, but follow your own heart and gut instincts.
Susan Messingham: Enjoy it, it goes too fast and there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Susan Green: Take it one day at a time and don’t think too far ahead.
Donna Penny: Don’t be too hard on yourself. If you stay in your PJs all day it’s ok.
Caroline Haines: Don’t listen to the advice, just trust your instincts.
Carol Hawkins: Relax and go with the flow.
Narissa Harrison: Take time out for yourself and it’s ok not to get everything done. Be in the moment.
Mischa Pearson: Expect the unexpected, some days are going to be great and some are going to suck.
Tam Wrigley: Get into a routine. Be strong and do what’s best for you.
Karen Young: Relax and enjoy.
Sue Frost: Enjoy each stage and do not be in a panic to have them grow up.
Kim Maher: To enjoy it. Give them your time and know it’s ok to say no.
Doreen McKelvey: Enjoy every moment with your children. They grow up so fast.
Deborah de Jong: It gets easier.
Helene Syke: Routine. Routine. Routine.
Josy Young: Don’t forget to love your husband. Give him time too.
Renee Smith: None. Do what feels right to you.
Suzanne Harris-Johns: Relax, most of them survive!
Fran Fuller: Don’t compare yourself to others.
Tracy Woolley: Don’t do it! Just jokes!
Lisa Box: Take care of you. You need to be holistically well to give your best to others.
Chris Childs: Sleep when you can. Spend time with your baby and children, they grow so fast and the dust can wait.
Lisa Huelin: Baby wipes are your new best friend.
Shannon Harth: Stop and breathe them in.
Jessica Vartuli: Enjoy each day, the good and bad as it flies by so fast.


Listen to other people’s advice, but follow your own heart and gut instincts.”
– Gillian Strong

Profile: What is the best part of being a mum?

Sonja Schulz: Celebrating my children’s achievements and providing a safe and loving environment for them to reach their full potential.
Gillian Strong: The joy that you feel when your children are happy and independent.
Susan Green: Watching them grow and develop into amazing human beings.
Carol Hawkins: The abundance of love I received.
Tam Wrigley: Watching them grow. Seeing them achieve. Being so proud of them.
Karen Young: Being blessed with the four best children in the world.
Doreen McKelvey: All the love you get from your children.
Sarah McIntosh: The laughter and watching the boys growing into young men.
Lisa Box: Being an educator of life.
Chris Childs: Becoming a grandmother!
Nef Pearce: Seeing my girls grow into confident young women who truly believe the world is their oyster.
Lisa Hulin: I’ve never had so much fun before.
Shannon Harth: I love it all.

VIP Ladies at Lunch

Profile: What is the most challenging part?

Sonja Schulz: Making sure that I’m dedicating enough time and patience for them in such a busy world and hoping I’m doing the best job in guiding them to be the best they can be.
Gillian Strong: Being the bad guy when they need a bit of tough love.
Susan Green: Managing different personalities.
Donna Penny: Fear and letting go.
Caroline Haines: Teenagers!
Narissa Harrison: Finding time for yourself.
Mischa Pearson: Sibling rivalry.
Tam Wrigley: Watching their hearts break. Seeing them hurt and always having them depend on you.
Karen Young: Worrying about their happiness and safety.
Kim Kaher: Having three teenagers in the house.
Doreen McKelvey: Hoping they stay on the right track.
Josy Young: Getting them through the teens.
Marie Brodie: Seeing them hurt.
Fran Fuller: Time management. Even teenage boys rely so much on Mum to keep them on track.
Lisa Box: Expectations. Yours first, then others.
Lisa Bowden: Having to have all the answers.
Chris Childs: Coping with school.
Nef Pearce: Juggling and handling the guilt that creeps in sometimes with being a working mum.
Lisa Huelin: Not being able to sleep in on a Sunday. Juggling work with parenting.
Shannon Harth: Giving them all what they need individually at the same time. It’s a juggling act.

*PROFILE READER OFFER: Celebrate Mum at Flaxton Gardens during the month of May. Complimentary main course for Mum from the set menu. Mention Profile to redeem the offer. Bookings recommended.*

When it comes to the perfect location to enjoy a sumptuous high tea, there are few places as perfect as the award-winning Flaxton Gardens in the Sunshine Coast Hinterland. Boasting picturesque coastline views stretching from Noosa to Mooloolaba, and nestled amid pristine manicured gardens, the setting is simply breathtaking.
Profile was delighted to host our special VIP Mother’s Day lunch at Flaxton Gardens and they certainly lived up to their reputation as one of the best venues on the Sunshine Coast.
Upon arrival, the ladies were greeted to a chilled glass of bubbles to enjoy on the terrace, while drinking in the panoramic vista before moving inside to the beautifully-decorated function room.
The ladies were treated to a luxury high tea luncheon including a selection of sweet and savoury delights. Each guest received an individual tiered plate, with delicious sandwiches including smoked salmon and dill, smoked chicken and pesto, grilled vegetable with rocket and a savoury vegetarian spring roll. Sweets included scones with jam and cream, vanilla bean cupcake, chocolate brownie, fresh fruit custard tartlet, almond and citrus slice and macaroons – yum! We finished with a choice of tea or coffee and chocolate bomboniere – the perfect end to a mouth-watering luncheon.
For those who are gluten intolerant, don’t worry, you won’t miss out, Flaxton Gardens can tailor the menu to suit most dietary requirements.
High tea at Flaxton Gardens is also a popular choice for baby-showers, hen’s celebrations or just a fabulous girly morning or afternoon. They are open six days (closed Monday) and high tea can be enjoyed at any time. Drop in, you’ll love it.
Flaxton Gardens
313 Flaxton Drive, Flaxton. Phone: 5445 7450

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