I certainly didn’t recognise the subtle signs of domestic violence within the context of a relationship.”
That was a significant body of work, particularly for women,” she says. “The legacy I wanted to leave was that people didn’t feel ashamed to talk about their experiences, and I feel like I’ve achieved that – the stigma sits where it should, with the offender, not with the victim.” But despite the incredible changes Jonty has made in the public sector, her two greatest achievements are personal. “Raising a beautiful brother – for what he went through, he’s an extraordinary young man, with not a bit of anger,” she says. “And I’ve maintained a relationship with my niece, who’s 16.” Jonty now has a family of her own, a two-year-old daughter and three beautiful step daughters aged 15, 13 and 10. “I’m happy,” she says with a warm smile, “I’m loving feeling normal.” Last year, Jonty completed a Masters in Criminology and Criminal Justice to back up what she’d learnt in the field. “I think knowledge is power and the more you can speak the language, the more you can understand the concepts, and the more you can work with the systems to create change,” she says. For the past 12 months Jonty has been focused on the opening of her psychotherapy centre, aptly named the Kintsugi Centre. It’s a virtual service for those affected by trauma and adversity to speak to practitioners specialising in post traumatic growth and positive psychology via Skype. “There’s a good space for people to find a new language around trauma and hardship,” she says. “The traditional way of treating trauma is to try to return people to ‘normal’, whereas our approach through post-traumatic growth is to recognise that trauma creates a profound experience that can transform you into a greater, stronger version of yourself.  Once you realise you can survive, you really understand that you can do anything. “You feel quite invincible.”]]>