Alvia Turney CEO and Founder of Act4Tomorrow Separation Specialists[/caption]
Vacations, Christmas, Easter, School holidays; if you’re in an unhappy relationship, holiday time brings extra tension and sadness.I only realised that separation and divorce was seasonal, once I started working in the separation industry. People tend to avoid leaving their partner over the holiday period, however there is an increase in the number of separations straight after the holiday break. Many say they wanted to leave, but wanting to keep the peace and not ruin it for everyone involved was their overriding factor in waiting. Christmas time, being at the end of the year, is a reminder that another year has passed by, and for many, their unhappy relationship has not improved. The new year has many individuals seeking counselling or looking for break-up advice. Leaving ‘it’ until things get back into routine may seem the best option at the time but be careful, if you’re not quick, another event will pop up and make it difficult to say, ‘I want to separate’, before you can blink.
Every month there seems to be another occasion or anniversary, will there ever be a right time to separate?Being prepared, seeking advice and planning when, will help you take the next step as kindly and respectfully for the entire family. Breaking up with the least amount of impact on you and your family will go a long way to keeping your separation matter civil, quick and cost effective. We care and understand the emotional stress a separation brings to the whole family. Our positive mindset philosophy and future focused approach throughout our engagement provides a strong support system unheard of in this industry. We provide a fully managed process which steps you from break-up, to a legal settlement. We work with clients throughout Australia and Australians residing overseas. We offer a set fee price, no hidden costs, no extras, no ticking hourly rate on the clock; every appointment, email, text and negotiation are included. We can work with you on your own, however if you both work with us the process time and cost can be minimised.
What our clients are saying…Joyce, We should have cancelled the trip and sorted out our separation Aaron, Camping was a big effort, especially when you are with someone who shows no interest. Mary, Going on holiday with his family again made me realise it was over. Matt, You guys were so helpful, because of you we managed to break-up amicably, we even had Christmas together. Jill, Everything was sorted in 5 weeks, we both appreciate your competent assistance
From Ending to new beginning
1. EndingUnsure to stay or leave? Is your fear of leaving the overriding factor for staying? Do you wish you were out of the relationship, dread going home, hoping your partner would leave? Find out how to organise leaving with a Separation Specialist.
2. PlanningIt is advisable to do some basic homework prior to saying, “It’s over”. You do not need to be a detective or snoop, most of the information is everyday banking, super and valuations. Securing funds, pins and passwords should also be considered.
3. Break-upFace-to-face can cause more pain and sorrow, you may also be talked back into staying. A letter followed by a discussion allows the other party privacy to retain dignity and overcome the shock. There is no right or wrong way, your ex-partner’s personality will have some bearing.
4. Legal adviceYou do not require a legal bulldog, the law has a list of questions which determines your outcome. Choose the most sensible lawyer and work quickly to find a settlement.
5. NegotiatingEven amicable couples find it uncomfortable and difficult to negotiate who keeps what, what’s fair, sharing assets and liabilities. An independent mediator or separations specialist will help keep discussions civil. Compromising is not giving in, it’s getting out.
6. Legal paperworkHandshakes are not enough, work with lawyers who will draft your negotiated agreement without derailing the outcome you have worked hard to reach.
7. New BeginningIt is ONLY a break-up, it is not a terminal illness, it is an ending but also a beginning. If your partner had died you would have to face the future without them, better to be with someone you love and who loves you than in an unhappy relationship, the world is your oyster, make plans.
Act4tomorrow is dedicated to providing you the best support, we will get you through this emotional roller coaster as cost effectively as possible. Founded to be a better way to separate, divorce and handle children’s matters. For a free initial consultation call the team1300 Act4Tom (1300 228486).
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