February 14, 2019
The children aren’t getting divorced – ACT4Tomorrow
Your children are not divorcing your ex, they will be part of the other parent’s life forever. Finding a way to work with your ex will go a long way in helping the children and you keep things amicable after separation.
Coming from a split family or being part of a blended family no longer carries the negative stigma as it used to. With this acceptance many other past dogmas like the children should remain with the mother have also gone. There are benefits to children having a meaningful relationship with both parents after separation.
By working amicably to achieve a Private Parenting Plan, which fits everyone’s schedule, life returns to a new normal quickly. It will also save you a small fortune on unnecessary court costs.
Arguing parents bring sadness, grief and fear to their family, what children want are happy parents, being together is optional.
You do not need a solicitor for a Private Parenting Plan, what you do need to be is:
1. Realistic, with the days you choose to care for the children, make sure the schedule fits into your commitments.
2. Reliable, follow through, keep changes to a minimum.
3. Timely, be on time for pick up and drop offs.
4. Flexible, swap days or times, accommodate everyone.
5. Informative, of incidents, accidents and changes of circumstances.
If the children remain at their school, keep the same friends and are certain they will see the other parent, it helps reduce the impact and they’ll adjust faster.
We work with our clients on an interim plan during the break-up to provide routine and stability, at the same time working on a full Private Parenting Plan for the year ahead. Covering holidays, medical care, birthdays etc, we find once a plan is in place, a routine is quickly established and many of the petty grievances drop away.
Our Separation service will step you through your financial separation, divorce, and parenting plan. Our clients live throughout Australia and Australians residing overseas. We offer a set fee price, there are no hidden costs, no extras, no ticking hourly rate on the clock, every appointment, email, text
and negotiation are included. We can work with you on your own, however if you both work with us the process time and cost can be minimised.
What our clients are saying…
Amanda, Once we had the plan in place, communicating was easier.
Chris, Our kids felt settled and happy in their new routine.
Kylie, I’m so grateful for the support and guidance you gave us.
Mark, My ex was so awkward I never thought I’d see the kids, the plan was brilliant.
Jessica, It made handover easy, we didn’t argue anymore.
Jason, You made this an easy process.
From Ending to new beginning
1. Ending
Unsure to stay or leave? Is your fear of leaving the overriding factor for staying? Do you wish you were out of the relationship, dread going home, hoping your partner would leave? Find out how to organise leaving with a Separation Specialist.
2. Planning
It is advisable to do some basic homework prior to saying, “It’s over”. You do not need to be a detective or snoop, most of the information is everyday banking, super and valuations. Securing funds, pins and passwords should also be considered.
3. Break-up
Face-to-face can cause more pain and sorrow, you may also be talked back into staying. A letter followed by a discussion allows the other party privacy to retain dignity and overcome the shock. There is no right or wrong way, your ex-partner’s personality will have some bearing.
4. Legal advice
You do not require a legal bulldog, the law has a list of questions which determines your outcome. Choose the most sensible lawyer and work quickly to find a settlement.
5. Negotiating
Even amicable couples find it uncomfortable and difficult to negotiate who keeps what, what’s fair, sharing assets and liabilities. An independent mediator or separations specialist will help keep discussions civil. Compromising is not giving in, it’s getting out.
6. Legal paperwork
Handshakes are not enough, work with lawyers who will draft your negotiated agreement without derailing the outcome you have worked hard to reach.
7. New Beginning
It is ONLY a break-up, it is not a terminal illness, it is an ending but also a beginning. If your partner had died you would have to face the future without them, better to be with someone you love and who loves you than in an unhappy relationship, the world is your oyster, make plans.
Act4tomorrow is dedicated to providing you the best support, we will get you through this emotional roller coaster as cost effectively as possible. Founded to be a better way to separate, divorce and handle children’s matters.
For a free initial consultation call the team1300 Act4Tom (1300 228486).
Married, Defacto, Same-sex couples Australia wide and Australians overseas.
