Two simple strategies parents have found helpful
- We grow a greater sense of efficacy in young people where after listening sensitively, we ask questions of what they can change to improve the situation. Early learning of focusing energy on the things we can change in life rather than the things we can’t, helps to grow a proactive problem solving approach to life rather than developing the habit of blaming others and developing a sense of powerlessness. Being positive about your school and your teachers in front of your children helps them to grow their sense of ownership and responsibility as a learner. This is your learning context, how are you going to make it work best? This also grows important life skills in being able to live and work effectively with a range of people.
- A simple shifting of language from, “I can’t”, to, “I haven’t learnt it yet”, or, “I haven’t succeeded yet”, opens minds to the possibility of what young people can do. If young people are taking time to learn a new idea or skill, helping them to develop the habit of, ‘I haven’t learnt this yet’, not only helps them to keep trying their best, but also helps shift their thinking to identifying and recognising what they can do and what they have yet to do. For young people who learn quickly, the question of, ‘I haven’t learnt it yet’, has them questioning how they can take their thinking and their learning to deeper levels. Sticking the word “yet” up above a study area can help to calm and focus home learning.