In the same way that you can’t expect to get a massive six pack without going to the gym, you can’t expect to be beaming with happiness if you don’t work at it.” “The idea that health and happiness will come to you is unfortunately a false one, you do need to work to achieve both, we don’t wake up happy, generally we have to work to be happy, thankfully it’s not that hard, but it does take work,” he says. “In the same way that you can’t expect to get a massive six pack without going to the gym, you can’t expect to be beaming with happiness if you don’t work at it.” As a young man growing up in Brisbane, Osher says he was afraid of the unknown – what he thought might happen or what people might think about him. “I later learned that this is a thing called social phobia and I also learned that I had a thing called generalised anxiety disorder,” Osher says. “In my teens I found a way to make that go away and it was a thing that a lot of people around me did and seemed to work for them, and that was drinking. It’s a commonly available drug, it’s a socially acceptable drug that a lot of people use. “But the amount I needed to feel anywhere near what I saw other people classify as normal, started to get more and more and fast-forward 20 years later and I’m in my 30s and it became unmanageable, and that’s when I needed to look at how I was living my life.” Working in entertainment, namely radio and television, as well as on stage as part of various bands, Osher was chin deep in an industry that was “usually in the evenings”. “There’s usually alcohol around and it’s all very well condoned and accepted to have a few beers in the green room after work, and certainly when I was in my Channel V days, that was just like a seven-year adventure, I would often not pay for a beer all week because you’re going to an event every night,” he says. “A lot of people would recognise a similarity when I say I tried to cut down and stop by myself and it didn’t work, but I reached a point where it was no longer a choice to have a drink and I wasn’t the one making the decision, the decision was being made by the booze and that was it for me. “I put my hand up and there’s a lot of help out there.” Osher has since turned his late boozy night life on its head and now feels more himself on an early morning cycle, indulging in his only vice, coffee, or enjoying an early night in with his new wife, Audrey, dining on delicious vegan fare. “Getting married is great, it’s staying married that is the adventure and the fun of it all. That’s where you really get to grow as a human being, which is what getting married is all about,” he says.
The idea that health and happiness will come to you is unfortunately a false one, you do need to work to achieve both, we don’t wake up happy, generally we have to work to be happy, thankfully it’s not that hard, but it does take work.”“It’s like having the best co-founder to the best startup you’ll ever be involved in. The two of you have to figure out ways to make it work and if you’re not growing as a human and becoming a better person and closer to the most authentic version of yourself that you can possibly get to through your relationship, you may want to look at how much work you’re putting into it. “What is it that I love about Audrey? It’s that she makes me want to be a better version of who I am and that’s the really rewarding part. I still might not be good at it, I’m still getting there, I still have to say sorry because I mess up, but she makes me want to try and do the right thing and I’m really lucky and through my relationship with her I can hopefully become the best version of myself I can be.” Osher is also launching into a new role, being a step-dad to 13-year-old Gigi – which I point out the fun years are fast approaching, navigating the teenage years of a female! “Oh the fun’s happening right now,” he says with a laugh, “And being a part of this young woman’s life and being a part of her existence as she starts dipping her toe into the waters of being a young adult,” he says. “I got there just as the door is closing on her childhood, I’ve got about six weeks of lying in bed and reading stories to her and I’m grateful and I’ll treasure every one of those nights. I think that’s kind of what makes it special is that it disappears and all I can do is try and instil in her her value as a human and instil in her that she should demand to be treated as an equal and with respect and anyone who doesn’t treat her that way, she can choose whether or not to spend time with them. And that’s really all I can do, I can’t go out there and protect her from the world, she’s her own human and she’s got to make those decisions for herself.”
Profile: What is the highlight of your career?Osher: The highlight of my career is I’ve worked hard to get to a point where I get to work with the people who are great at what they do and we together get to do meaningful work that makes other people happy, I get to do that every day on the radio in Brisbane at Hit 105 and I get to do that every day with Bachelor and Bachelorette and to create meaningful work I believe in. That makes other people’s day a little bit brighter, is a beautiful thing and I’m very lucky to do it.
Profile: What has been your most memorable moment?Osher: I don’t think you can ever really go past those massive live Australian Idol grand finals that we did at the Opera House, especially in the early days, it was a very different media landscape, the internet speeds were nowhere near what they are, there was no such thing as mobile video, there were only five channels on TV and unless you go to work at the opening of an Olympics or Commonwealth Games, you didn’t get to do a TV show that big. As far as me and what I do, I did a season of a show in 2011, I’m the first Australian and I think the only Australian to ever host live national prime time network in the States on CBS.We had 10 million people watching it and that’s the best work I’ve ever done in my life, but that was the product of 17 years of work, six-seven day-a-week work to get me to the point where you have that mastery of what it is that you do and it was really quite something to be able to be so focused, that was really great.
I met a man who told me if I change my name, I change my life.”